In my practice, I see a lot of women who are experiencing pain, be it physical, emotional or spiritual. Many of them are confused as to the source of the pain and eventually, unresolved confusion can easily turn into anger, frustration, impatience and even self-hate.

But the ultimate goal in the healing process is, first and foremost, to create wholeness within yourself. You can’t force your body to be pain-free (this attitude is probably what got you in trouble in the first place). Here are eight things to remember when your body is hurting that will get you started on recovery and healing your pain for good:

  1. Your body doesn’t want to cause you pain.
    It’s normal to get angry at our bodies when we’re in pain. Injuries often cause us to disassociate from our bodies, allowing our minds to view our physical being as the enemy for not allowing us to perform the way we want to or are used to. But remember …
  1. You’re not the victim of your injury.
    Think about what caused your injury. Physical injuries aren’t always just the result of a slip or fall. They can can also be the manifestation of emotional hardship, spiritual suppression or extreme mental demands that the body simply can’t carry any longer.
  1. Your body wants to heal.
    It’s important to foster a firm sense of trust that your body wants to heal. The human body is highly complex and has tons of mechanisms in place that are there to help the body heal and recover.
  1. Think about what your body is trying to tell you.
    Ask yourself, “What is my body forcing me to do? What is my body preventing me from doing?”
  1. Make sure you fuel your body with anti-inflammatory foods and spices.
    Your body needs nourishment to heal. Focus on foods high in omega-3 fatty acids, plenty of vegetables and detoxifying spices, like turmeric, ginger, cinnamon, garlic, cayenne, black pepper and clove.
  1. Adjust your internal language.
    To make healing possible, you need to create an atmosphere of love and acceptance. Instead of scolding your body for hurting, see if you can find compassion by asking it what it needs to heal.
  1. Create a loving ritual.
    This should encourage healing and adjust your energy. A nice and easy morning ritual is to place your hands on your lower belly, take a deep breathe and say to yourself, “I love you and I’m ready for you to feel well again when you are. I promise I will respect and listen to you.”
  1. Do what feels good and get a support system around you.

If you’re someone who’s used to moving a lot, it can be hard to slow down. I often hear about fear of gaining weight and becoming unattractive as a result of skipping your typical gym routine, but it’s important that you’re giving your body the rest it needs.

Consider walking, swimming, restorative yoga or other gentle types of exercises that are more conducive to the healing process. Use this calmer time to really explore and feel your body. Find ways of connecting exercise with people you love who can support you. Having a network of people is extremely important when going through the healing process.

What is your healing journey like? Do you feel angry at your own body? How can you change the way you feel about your healing journey to a kind and compassionate way of looking at yourself and your body? Spend some time with with questions, whether that be in meditation or journalling. Release any expectation on what you think should happen. When we are in a quiet and relaxed state we can connect to the subtle energies of our body and realize the answer to any question has been there all along.